There comes a point in everyone of our lives when we’re faced with this question whose conclusion most of us struggle coming up to: how do I know if I should try harder or move on?
Irrespective of the situation, I believe we all face this phase a multiple times in our lifetimes. Let it be after a breakup or in a relationship that was perfect and magical for you before but now things don’t seem to be going your way or let it be in any task at which you gave all your time and effort but results didn’t come in your favor – we all face it more than once as we grow.
The dilemma in the situation leaves us with thousands of confusing thoughts, messy feelings and emotions. In our everyday life, millions of us struggle sorting out the seemingly complex and complicated chaos. I know how exhausting and tired it might make you feel. I know a number of people who’re struggling with making the decision and coming up to a conclusion. You reading this right now tells me that you’re one of them. Whether it’s a job or a task or a relationship that you’re contemplating about, I hope this blog helps you making a decision.
Without wasting time, let’s dive right in, shall we?
How to know if I should try harder and not give up
I know how silly this might sound but one of the easiest way I’ve known to determine if I should try again is to listen to my gut – that voice that whispers from within. When the situations are so complicated that you just can’t decide, listen to the sound of your soul. Trust your gut – you have it for a reason.
2.) You realize the reason why it didn’t work out
After a failure, it’s always smart – and important – to figure out what didn’t work and what went wrong. You can sit and cry [the victims’ business] or you can pause a moment and look out for patterns of why something didn’t workout [the IMPACTIONERS’ habit].
For example, if you were in a relationship and got broke up and now you realize the reason and it can be fixed. Or if the results of any specific task you were working hard on didn’t come in your favor and now you realize what went wrong.
Remember: rework on what didn’t work. That’s the equation for improvement and growth.
3.) Determine if your decision is influenced by emotion
What I mean by this is, before you come up to a conclusion – to move on or try harder – determine if you’re taking this decision from an emotional level. Let me quote Leonard Mlodinow here.
Of course our feelings matter. But emotional decisions are usually not the best ones. On the other hand, your emotions can affect your decisions whether you like it or not because the effects can occur on the unconscious level.
4.) Remember the reason why you began
This is another most simple yet effective ways to determine if you should try harder or move on. If you were working on any special project and you feel like giving up, remember why you started off with the project. Or if you’re in a relationship and it’s on a verge of breakup, reflect on what drew you together. Or you might be a writer stuck in the darkest times of the filthy writer’s block, started to doubt your ability and on the verge of giving up, remember what made you begin.
How to know if I should move on
1.) You are burned out
The feeling of being burned out can be defined by reaching a level when you feel exhausted physically or mentally or emotionally. If you feel drained and exhausted and burned out, when every part of your self – from your soul to your heart to your mind and to your body – feels exhausted, it’s time to start thinking about moving on.
2.) You feel pain more than you feel joy and satisfaction
I really believe that the rate of joy and a sense of satisfaction you feel are great factors that determine the rate of your success. If you’re in a relationship and you feel bored more than you feel complete. Or if you have been working on any task since so long and so hard but you feel uninspired more than you feel excited about finishing the task and accomplishing your goal.
3.) There’s something holding you back from becoming a person you want to be
Is there anything you realize that is holding you back from living up-to your fullest potential? It can be a relationship or a job or any task. Is it resisting your personal growth? Set personal growth a priority. If you realize something or someone holding you back from becoming the person you want to be, my suggestion is to consider moving on.
4.) When you realize that letting go will be the best decision you can take
How do you realize that letting go will be the best decision? When you feel moving on will create space for more better things to come in. Why wouldn’t you move on if it only creates more space for better things?
To move on is a choice. And so is to stay stuck. There comes a point in your life when you realize that all the time you stayed stuck, you were actually avoiding growth and missing out on the magic of life. Whatever it is – if it’s a relationship or a job or a task or anything that you’re having a hard time with, I hope this post helps you making a decision and reaching out to a conclusion.
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